There's a website, Upworthy, that I check out on occasion because it has interesting videos they upload, preceded by brief explanations why the person thinks the video is particularly worthwhile.Yesterday, they had a video uploaded by a Rafael Casal, who writes --
"I get judgy looks at intersections all the time because I am playing rap music at loud volumes, and I watch people decide things about my character and what kind of person I am because of that. One of my favorite TV actors had this same experience, and freakin' nailed the perfect comeback."
I don't know what the perfect comeback was, nor how deeply the actor "nailed it," because I was still stuck back at what Mr. Casal wrote. Because all I could think of was saying back to him -- y'know, maybe all those people at the intersections aren't giving you judgy looks deciding things about your character and about the kind of person you are deeply and emotionally at all. Maybe they're just giving you looks of annoyance because you're playing music of any kind REALLY LOUD. And you're impinging on their own personal space for your own selfish interests. Much the same as if someone walked up to you and started screaming in your ear.
They might not care one whit what kind of person you are. They just might be really pissed off that you're simply annoying the bejeepers out of them because, at that moment, you're being rude and thoughtless, and clearly don't grasp that, even now.
Or not. Maybe they are making a value judgment about you. Who know?
Interestingly, the headline of the piece is titled, "Watch And Learn: How To Roll Down Your Window And Deliver A Fantastic Response To An A**hole."
I had to re-read the whole thing a couple times, because for a minute, I honestly thought the Upworthy editor was playing a trick on Mr. Casal and being ironic...
Robert J. Elisberg is a political commentator, screenwriter, novelist, tech writer and also some other things that I just tend to keep forgetting.
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